If you’ll be given a choice to be a working mom or be a plain housewife, what will you choose? If money is not a problem, I’d definitely say I want to be a plain housewife in a heartbeat! I’d love to spend every waking day and witness every milestone with Gwen. But then again, there are realities I have to deal aside from financial reasons.
Reasons why I work
- Money. Jeff and I wanted to live a comfortable life, he can provide with all our needs even if I don’t work but I think it’s practical these days that women should also help in earning for the family. The additional income can later on be used for vacation and leisure trips, life insurance, savings and investments, luxuries, etc. I’ll talk more about this later.
- To have some extra to spend on whatever. Sorry, can’t think of an appropriate word. Just a background, my mother is a housewife and Papa is a seaman. Papa will just send allotment (a portion of his salary) monthly to pay for the bills, our school baon, and groceries. I have no idea on the amount, but I think it’s just enough. If my brother and I wants an expensive toy (which may be out of the budget), Nanay’s reply will always be, “Pagdating ng Papa nyo.” Hindi ko lang alam baka excuse lang ni Nanay yun para hindi namin sya kulitin, hmmm… But my point is, I want to have my own earned money so that if I want to buy something, or Gwen wants something, I don’t have to ask money or permission to spend from my husband. Nakakahiya lang kasi to spend someone else’s money on impractical things like make-up, accessories, clothes, and other abubots only women will understand. In our family, Jeff takes care of the basic needs, Gwen’s milk, diapers, clothes, school expenses. The grocery is on me because I love doing the grocery at kung anu-ano kasi nadadampot ko kahit di na kelangan like chocolates. Kaya para walang tanong why I spend a thousand pesos on chocolates alone, ako na lang in charge sa grocery. We also like to travel, so I’m the one who pays for our tickets and accommodation on our vacation.
- For my and my husband’s SANITY. I got to preview the life of just staying at home during my maternity leave. While I really enjoyed being a mom and breastfeeding her exclusively, there were telltale signs that being at home for a long time wasn’t for me. The first week was fine, but the riot started after two weeks of staying at home. I got upset when he came home and told me he already ate at the mall (Nainggit ako, haha). I noticed that staying at home made me impatient, irritable, and unreasonable. I easily got angry on petty things. So when my maternity leave was over and I came back to work, I felt normal again. I bet Jeff’s happy too.
To each his own, and I’m sure WAHMs and SAHMs have wonderful reasons why they stay that way. But this works for me.
I’d love to hear your own reasons. What works for you?